Saying YES to Peace
Here’s the thing about peace: after surviving a narcissist, it doesn’t feel peaceful at first. It feels terrifying.
Silence used to mean punishment. Calm was the setup before another storm. A quiet night was never actually quiet—it was the uneasy pause before the explosion. So when you finally get out and the chaos is gone, peace feels suspicious. Your nervous system is scanning the room for danger that isn’t there.
But here’s the truth: peace isn’t boring. Peace is what your body and mind have been begging for. Peace is the yes you didn’t even know you needed.
Why Peace Feels Unfamiliar
When you’ve been trapped in cycles of push-and-pull, your brain gets hooked on adrenaline. The highs of love-bombing, the lows of criticism, the constant uncertainty—it wires your system to expect chaos.
So when calm finally arrives, it feels unnatural. Wrong, even. You might even crave the old drama just to feel something. That’s not because you’re broken. That’s because you’ve been trained to equate survival mode with love.
Redefining Peace
Peace isn’t silence designed to scare you. It’s silence that allows you to hear yourself again.
Peace isn’t someone sulking in another room. It’s laughter with friends who don’t make you guess where you stand.
Peace isn’t punishment. It’s freedom.
When you start saying yes to peace, you start rewiring your nervous system. You teach yourself that calm doesn’t mean danger—it means safety.
What Saying YES to Peace Looks Like
Yes to quiet mornings. Coffee, sunlight, and no crisis waiting in your inbox.
Yes to stability. Relationships where you don’t wonder if you’ll be discarded today.
Yes to healthy routines. Sleep, food, movement that supports your energy instead of draining it.
Yes to calm joy. Walks in nature, music that soothes, laughter that feels easy.
At first, it feels uncomfortable—like wearing clothes that don’t quite fit. But keep saying yes, and eventually, peace becomes your second skin.
Learning Not to Chase the Drama
You’ll be tempted. Drama feels exciting because it’s familiar. It spikes your adrenaline and convinces you it’s passion. But here’s the truth: passion doesn’t have to hurt. Real intimacy doesn’t leave you anxious and sleepless.
So when peace feels boring, remind yourself: boredom is not danger. Boredom is your system detoxing from chaos. Peace is the reset button.
Why This YES Matters
Every yes to peace is a no to chaos. Every time you choose calm over drama, you reinforce the truth: love doesn’t have to hurt.
The narcissist thrived on keeping you off-balance. Peace is how you take your balance back.
The Truth
Saying yes to peace isn’t easy. It feels unnatural after abuse. But over time, peace stops feeling like emptiness and starts feeling like home.
And once you learn to love it, you’ll never settle for chaos again.
Peace isn’t boring. Peace is freedom. And you deserve it.
