I’m Jenny Liebel, founder of Heal, Not Deal, a space dedicated to supporting Survivors of narcissistic abuse as they reclaim their voices, rebuild their confidence, and rediscover their sense of self.

After walking through my own experiences with the Jekyll-and-Hyde reality of a few narcissistic relationships, I know intrinsically how confusing, isolating, and damaging the cycle is to your psyche, your heart, and to your body. I silently endured as relationship dynamics chipped away at my confidence, my voice, and my sense of self. Luckily, I’m in a better place now through hard work, therapy, and a good support network.

Speaking of which, this site was created to form a network of resources to help Survivors, because no one should feel alone in the face of or aftermath of abuse. It was also created to shine a light on the truth: that narcissists cannot love you in the way you hope for. Their love is self-directed, and unfortunately they treat people as objects that serve their needs, not as equal partners. Understanding this reality is the first step toward freedom and healing. Trust their actions, not their words. If you’re like most survivors, you are probably still questioning your worth, your memory of events (“what happened”), and your ability to trust yourself. I created this community to help you change that. Surviving abuse is more than a breakup. It’s a reclamation of who you lost, but also a celebration of who you are becoming.

In my journey, I had to:

• grieve the version of myself who stayed,

• fight like Hell to rebuild the woman I was, and

• face the mirror to become the woman who could stand up on her own again.

Now, I use my story to help other people do the same. My mission is simple: to shine a light on the manipulative cycles of abuse, to remind survivors that healing is messy but possible, and to show that change after narcissistic relationships is not just survival—it’s a transformation back to who you really are, and want to be.

I believe in turning pain into power.

If my journey helps one person find their voice, strength, or way out, then every word is worth it. Putting myself out there (as nervous as I was to) was worth it, because we don’t want anyone to feel alone. Here we share insights, resources, and encouragement for anyone ready to step out of the shadows of manipulation and into a healthier, more authentic life. Recovery isn’t just possible; it’s powerful. And you don’t have to walk through it alone. We’re here for you.

Resources

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) <— Do not be afraid to call…

• Psychology Today Therapist Finder

• Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (Melanie Tonia Evans)

• Books on Healing from Narcissistic Abuse